He says " oh ya i know i am the best. He needs us to follow where ever he goes, he always wants people to listen to him. And when no body did, he sit in one corner so that people should ask for him. He always, always and one more time...always..relates things to himself. In other words, if i say you know..i don't like the chocolate ice cream. That's it, he will start sharing his OWN experience and the blah blah blah..saying that even he don't like chocolate ice cream..and he likes mango and the strawberry..and he always have ice creams on the weekends..and how once he was crazy to have a chocolate and he went to the ice cream at 0200 hours. Huh..I know this has happened to you as well, many times. You know why we all have experienced it ? Because there are very few species on this earth who are actually listening to others. Others are the 'Attention Seekers'. This is the first quality of an attention seeker. That they always and always talks about themselves. I have a friend of mine. She will always talk about her and the worst part is she only listens to what she wants to , rest things will be unheard. And when later i say..." I told you right the other day?" and she goes all blank. Saying..Na...you did not. Usually our conversations are like this :
She : Hey Amy, whats up. What are you thinking about?
Me: Hi..nothing as such. All well. Just thinking about the shifting thing.
She : Oh you are shifting?
Me: yes..i told you right. That i am going to shift this march 1st.
She : Hmm...ok..i don't remember. Number 1 thing she don't remember.
Me : Why are you rolling your eyes all over the cafe?
She : No..i am listening to you.. Number 2 when she is distracted because nothing is going on as per her interest and she is looking around the people. And as well she is waving hands to people known to her, and giving some gestures.
Me : okay..so what are you doing here..?
She : Nothing..just came with a friend..
Me: oh okay..so what else?
She : oh, you are super busy these days. just don't have time for us. How much do you work, atleast take some time for friends. Look at us...and she starts to talk about herself. So finally she herself starts talking about herself.
By that time her friend comes..and she just leave saying a normal or may be a less than normal "bye".. The problem with the ATTENTION seekers is that they can't be in the group for a long time. Because then they don't get the whole lot of attention. When you are in a group, you know people won't be that bothered to look at you, or what are you up for. So they tend to walk away from the group, and talk minimal to not at all. And they also know..if they are gonna talk less people are gonna ask.."Hey,what happened to you? Are you alright". And that's it they will start.." oh ya..i am okay. just that last night i couldn't take enough sleep because of lot of work, and blah blah blah!!!!!
So the few characteristics of an Attention seeker can be:
Number 1 : Talk about themselves.
Number 2: Relate to each and every thing you say to their experience, and before you even finish your saying they will start saying..hm..i don't like that as well..but i love that...and also the ................
Number 3: Will always do things that grabs people attention, like Working a lot..and then letting the world know by their mouth..or like...following a religion and then praising about it.
Number 4: Talk less when in group of people, and more when with two or three people. Because in small group of people, they can create a great impression of themselves but in group, they know..few will surely be not interesting in listening to them.
Number 5: Will be always be active, and will love when people tell them that they should take rest..they should take care of themselves..and then the reply that they give will be.." yes, but i love the way i am living my life" hm..really?!!?
Number 6: Attention Seekers will love to be a discussion topic of the group. or they will enjoy that people are teasing them and trying to talk about them. They feel it as a accomplishment and will tell people that..these guys will always tease me and make fun of me.. Well Mr./ Miss Attention seeker that is what you want.
Number 7: They love when people say " oh ..without you we don't enjoy the breaks". It makes them feel valuable.
Number 8: They have this feeling that people always talk about them, and they are the hot discussions in the group. and they are proud about it.
And last but not the least for sure
Number 9: They will always try to do things differently than others, even if not needed.
okay, so Mr. Attention seeker we are listening !!
P.S : Also they will show that they are the only one knowing things going around in the world, and they are the only believer of everything say like God and humanity .
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